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“Keep the Change”

Yesterday I was taking some kind of silly, yoga-infused-with-hand-weight-nonsense type of class. It was an hour set aside in my day focused on “finding myself” and “thanking my body for the ability to grow stronger”. While, yes, both things happened in a roundabout way, it was nary the “spiritual retreat”  most trendy yoga places promise. While my belly button pooled up with sweat and my love handles crept over the top of my Lulus, I stared at myself in the mirror wondering where I would find my next carbohydrate following this torturous hour. 

“At the end of this three-minute squat circuit, hold at the bottom and pulse! YOU CAN! YOU LOOK SO STRONG!!!!” the instructor screamed over the aggressive bass. 

“…..deeeeaaath….” I muttered under my ujjayi breath. 

She bopped around the room, fist bumping to the Vegas Strip-inspired playlist. 

Smiling and giggling. 

All the while showing off her 14-pack stomach.

I growled, pulling up my leggings that had been holding on for dear life under the force of my tubular midsection. 

“CHANGE IS COMING, YOGIS!!!!!” 

These words shook me to my core.

I was overcome with emotions. 

Happiness! 

Love! 

Excitement! 

TRUE ELATION!

A simple act of change would set us free! 

The notion of being “freed by change” is a concept most people, myself at the front of the line, typically find unsettling. As we should. I mean, come on, I don’t even like not knowing how movies are going to end, let alone the thought of my reality as I know it becoming something it is no longer. 

Change means something is going to be different from what we have grown accustomed to, opening the door to variables that are likely momentarily out of our control. That can be scary stuff. But, as suggested, after the dust settles, change is only way we evolve and, in some cases, are freed of what is no longer serving us. 

So how do we welcome or, at the very least, combat the fear of change? 

Let’s play a game, shall we

1. Think of something you believe should change in your life. This could be something simple like your hair color (wait, that’s not always that simple), the time you wake up in the morning, the brand of toilet paper you buy, whatever.. just something relatively non-earth shattering. 

2. Identify the components: People? Place? Behavior? 

3. Make a pros/cons list. Hang with me here. I know it seems trite, but it’s important. 

4. Set aside the “pros” and study the “con” side of the list. Assess what it is that makes each item “scary”. Now shift the statement or item to become something that instead makes you excited. Or perhaps, if not excited, makes you step out of your comfort zone and learn something new. Or maybe, third option, you simply rephrase it to be something you better understand. It is up to you how you spin it, placing the power back in your hands.

Yep. It is just that easy. 

You are truly in control of all change.

Until you are not. 

Some change seeps into life like a fart in an elevator: unable to avoid and certainly uninvited. 

That type of change can totally rock your world. 

It is nearly impossible to prepare for and seemingly out of your control. 

It is the worst type of unexpected dinner guest. 

Breathe. 

I urge you to go back to the list exercise and reframe it as though YOU made the choice. Take back the power and walk away stronger and better for it. Maybe the universe has a plan, but maybe it doesn’t, so it’s up to you to take back the control and choreograph your journey.

The last 10 years have brought an exponential amount of change to my life. 

Moments of sorrow. Moments of joy. 

Moments of anger. Moments of contentedness. 

Moments of uncertainty. Moments of clarity. 

Some invited. Some just simply an aggressive elevator fart. 

As we embark on this journey together, I commit to indulge you in specifics, but until then, I would like to leave you with this thought: 

Life events have taught me that there really is no such thing as “spare change”. By definition, the idea of “spare change” refers to “change you don’t need” which, in my opinion, simply does not exist. Sure, you can “share” change, but to think any change, be it experiential or serving a monetary purpose, is simply “not needed” is ludicrous. 

Let’s practice: 

“Got any spare change, Miss?” 

“No. No, I do not.” 

Say it again. 

“Got any spare change, Miss?” 

“No. No, I do not.”

And again. And again. 

Smile. 

Friends, we are opening the chapter on a brand new decade!
Isn’t it incredible to know that there is NOTHING that CAN’T happen today, tomorrow, or in the next 10 years?! What an exciting time to be alive! 

I encourage you to let yourself be freed by change on the horizon. Let change help you evolve, grow, learn, and maybe even be freed. 

Don’t see it? 

Imagine it. 

Doesn’t exist? 

Create it. 

There is my two cents. 

Keep the change. 

Best, 

Kelly 

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